The article by Chukwuneta Oby addresses the deep-seated cultural mindset among some Igbo men that places a significant value on having male children, often leading to complex personal and family situations. The story shared by a man in distress illustrates how this mindset can lead to strained relationships, questionable decisions, and emotional turmoil.
In this case, the man’s desperate desire for a male child leads him through a series of complicated relationships, which not only disrupt his life but also affect those around him. Oby advises that instead of fixating on the gender of a child, one should value the children they have, regardless of gender. She emphasizes that in the long run, what matters most is not the gender of the child but the care and love they offer.
Oby also warns the man to consider the possibility that the women involved may not have his best interests at heart, given the circumstances and their behaviors. She suggests that the man should focus on his overall health and well-being, including considering a DNA test for the children, as his desperation for a male child may have clouded his judgment.
The article underscores the importance of shifting away from cultural pressures that prioritize male children and instead encourages a more balanced and thoughtful approach to family and relationships.